Starting the divorce process can feel overwhelming. For many, the first meeting with a solicitor is the moment everything becomes real, and understandably, emotions can run high. But with the right preparation, that meeting should be empowering, informative, and a crucial step toward clarity and control.
Here’s how to get the most out of your no-obligation initial consultation with us.
1. Gather the Key Information Available to You
You don’t need to bring a full dossier, but having some basic facts ready will help your solicitor to give you a more tailored advice:
- Dates of the relationship, cohabitation, marriage and separation
- Details of any children (names, ages, schooling)
- Overview of assets – both yours and theirs (property, savings, pensions)
- Liabilities including mortgages and car payments plans
- Income details for both parties
- Any existing court orders or agreements
If you’ve already started completing a Form E or D81, bring it along – even in draft.
2. Be Honest and Open
Your solicitor is there to help, not judge. The more upfront you are about your finances, relationships, and concerns the more specific the advice can be. For example, if there has been domestic abuse, financial or coercive control, or emotional manipulation, it’s important to say so. These factors can significantly affect the legal process that is right for you.
3. Think About Your Goals
What does a good outcome look like for you? It might be:
- Staying in the family home
- Protecting income security
- Wealth protection in retirement
- Minimising disruption for the children
- Avoiding court
Even if you’re unsure, starting to think about your priorities will help shape the strategy.
4. Know What You Want to Ask
You don’t need to know everything but having a few key questions in mind can help focus the conversation.
Write down anything that’s worrying you. No question is too small.
5. Don’t Worry About Legal Jargon
You don’t need to understand the terms Consent Order or Financial Remedy Application; your solicitor will explain everything in plain English. If something doesn’t make sense, please ask.
6. Bring Support If You Need It
If you’re nervous, you may want to consider bringing a trusted friend or family member. They can help take notes, offer emotional support, and remind you of questions you wanted to ask.
Please note that we do not offer the ‘one lawyer’ model, and therefore we would not be able to have your spouse accompany you.
7. Expect a Plan, Not a Solution
Your solicitor won’t solve everything in one meeting but they will aim to provide you a roadmap. You should leave with:
- A clear understanding of your options
- An outline of the next steps
- An idea of costs and timelines
- Confidence in your chosen lawyer
Conclusion
Your first meeting is the beginning of a process that can lead to resolution, stability, and a fresh start. With the right preparation, you’ll be ready to take that step with confidence. Please contact us.
